The 3 second Rule

                                         The 3 second rule

How can you tell if a Woman likes you? How do you approach a Hot woman when you see her? This is one subject I know sociologist always research. So you are out with your boys and you see a hot woman 'How do you know if she thinks you’re hot'?

One method that I love too use and share that often works is The 3 SECOND RULE. Ok guys let go through this step-by-step.

First step: Have a ‘Hottie interest'. When you see a hot woman an instant rush is sent to your brain that triggers your nerves and you feel a 'wow' sensation.If you want to see if she has a man wait 10 minutes. If her man is around he is most probably grabbing a drink or in the bathroom and would be back under 10 minutes. Try and notice a diamond ring, guys that can be a real deal breaker. If there is NO MAN & NO RING step 2 shall commence.

 Second step: ‘Locate your hottie and stand in front view position'.If you see her make sure you are somewhere we she can notice you too. This doesn’t mean you need to be directly in front but move your body around so she can see you.You may need to move to her side of the room if it's too far.Be confident and brave we love that. You need her to notice you before you move on to step 3.

 

Third step:  Begin the 3 second rule. Look over at your hottie and let her catch you out.If we like what we see then the eye contact begins. Your hottie interest will now be thinking "Oh was he checking me out, his hot" or  "ummmm weirdo". If your hottie interest likes what she sees then you will catch her checking you out too. So if you find yourself standing there and eye contact is happening try this.If she looks at you longer than 3 seconds and more than 3 times make a move.

We aren’t going to checkout a guy more than once if we don’t think he is hot. Women love guys to make the first move. Eye contact and body language is so powerful it can determine if a woman is interested without using a word. So next time you're out and see a gorgeous woman try 'The 3 SECOND RULE’ and feel the power of confidence.

  

G.B.S XX

The Gym and The Women Who Go

. The Makeup Artist

. The Social Networker

 .The Independent Woman

So right now this may not make much sense but I will break it down in a moment. I decided to sign up at the gym for many reasons, one obvious reason was to tone up and the second, well I love the gym and love to look fit. As an observer by nature I began to watch the Women and Men around me at the gym. Who was flirting with whom, who was a real gym junky and who came to the gym to gossip. What I concluded after 5 months of observing and research was three different types of women who trained at the gym.

The Makeup Artist

She is my favourite one (NOT) since when did training in hardcore makeup become in fashion? I have seen a few of these girls at the gym in the past and present and I do not get why they need to wear so much makeup. I came to the conclusion that these girls are insecure and love to show off. Guys picking up or even meeting women at the gym can be a bonus but if you go for the makeup artists you may end up changing gyms. The Makeup Artist are those girls who love attention; wither you date her or see at the gym people will stare and she will love it. Attention is what they want attention is what they get. I know when I go to the gym and see these girls ‘working out’ that they have no real identity a real woman does not need to wear make up to the gym, a real woman is not afraid to sweat and look exhausted in a room full of men and other women. 

I know I may sound a little harsh here on these girls but come on ladies if you want to look hot and wear make up the gym is not the place for that. They wonder why they are single I just don’t know what to tell them. In psychology we look at behavior and action. An individual who knows who they are and can reach a high state of self-actualization such as.

* Sense of reality - aware of real situations - objective judgment rather than subjective

* Spontaneous and natural - true to oneself, rather than being how others want

* Comfortable with oneself - despite any unconventional tendencies

* Excited and interested in everything, even ordinary things.

* Creative, inventive and original

If a woman has these characteristics she would not look like she is going out to a club when she is actually going to the gym. Maslow Hierarchy of needs is where this theory comes from. If a woman is comfortable in her own skin and her actions are not one of a 15 year old, then she knows who she is and is comfortable with her self and would not need to pretend to be someone she isn't.

Should you pick her up?

If you want to change gym then yes pick her up, I wanted to see if a 'Makeup Artist' would make a great girlfriend so I asked my friend Mikey who was up for the challenge. I said that she would do his head in and become a stalker he thought otherwise.

Sue this girl is doing my head in she looks all right dressed up but no personality. She asks me the same questions over and over and wants to know my timetable. I took her out to dinner and she orders salad and when she talks she sounds fake. Like real ditzy!!

She loves the attention and I don’t really get her? She applies lip-gloss ever 2 seconds, I have no clue why, her lips aren’t going anywhere. I get it chicks who look like that at the gym + that much make up = DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA. I have to delete her WTFFF do I do? 

 Sent via Black Berry Sunday 28th August 7:09 pm

I hate to say I told you so, but in saying this I know some Women are self conscious of their beauty and wear a little cover up to the gym to hide scars and pimples, ladies do what you feel is necessary I salute you. When I say ‘Makeup Artist’ I mean the girls who looks like they are going out and leave nothing to the imagination. A real Woman will dare to bare all at the gym, she will be confident and uses the gym for the solid purpose for training.

The Social Networker

The second type of Woman that I noticed at the gym is the ‘Social Networker’. These Women come too the gym with a friend. At the gym I always see women training with their girlfriends and I’ve come to the conclusion that it is for 2 reasons: First to have company and Second to have someone to help motivate them and support them at the gym. Some women work harder with a friend and find that the gym is more fun. If you find yourself attracted to a social networker then I say go for it she will be more down to earth and easy to talk to over the makeup artists. A woman who trains with a friend has great communication skills and enjoys been surrounded by people in her life.

Should You Pick Her Up?

The hard fact about wanting to talk to a social networker is getting her alone to begin the conversation. As a gym lover myself I enjoy training alone but sometimes I enjoy the company of a friend it helps make a 45-minute cardio session feel like 20 minutes. I remember training one night with a friend and a certain gentleman caught my eye, but I’ am old fashion I don’t like to make the first move. I knew if he wanted to talk to me he would have come up to me my girlfriend, I knew that was never going to happen so I forgot all about it and continued to train. I usually leave my water at the back where all the lockers are; I take a sip and go back to my gym session. At the end of my session I noticed a note under my water bottle. At first I thought someone hit my car and left a note but the note read

    I wasn’t sure how to approach you, I think you are gorgeous, I would like to get to know you, I was training with a blue Nike top we crossed path few times, if you’re interested give me a call

                       04********

A note is fun and a romantic way for letting a woman know you like her.  We have to give guys the benefit of the doubt here not all women are approachable. It does take courage to approach a woman especially if she is not alone. But if you find your self attracted to a ‘Social Networker’ try my 3 Second Rule (scroll down to my article on the 3 second rule). If you find it hard to catch her checking you out or visa versa go with your instinct. Trust what your heart and mind tells you, you do not need to rush into asking her out that moment. When you see her try to observe the situation and go from there. If you know where her locker is, car or even bag then a note is a romantic way to a woman’s heart. Not every woman at the gym is single, so take your time ask around use some of your own social networks before you make a move (if you hate rejection then ask around). If you are a ‘Triple C’ man (cool, calm and confident) then go for gold.

The Independent Woman

An Independent Woman by definition is someone who is not afraid to take charge, she knows who she is, she is not afraid to speak her mind, she stands up for what she believes in and is hard working. This woman who enters the gym goes in with all force, she is not looking to see if others look at her, she has her mind on one thing, ‘Training’. Women who go to the gym without makeup, alone and dedicated are defined as an Independent Woman. She does not care if you train near her, if you try and talk to her she will do one of two things: Ignore you or Talk back.

Some men are drawn to an Independent Woman they love a woman who works hard dress well and carries themselves in a pro matter. At the gym I noticed the women who come in with their business skirts and shirt, high heels, they come in get changed and hit the gym hard. Now I understand there are some guys who are intimated by a woman who knows what she wants. Most of all a man wants to be able to provide for his woman and feel like the man in the relationship not the other way around. So the attraction works both ways when it comes to an Independent Woman. You either like her or don’t. At the gym recently I paid attention to most of the women who came in (I hope they didn’t think I was on there side) and I was able to pick the Independent Woman out just by what she wore. She is the one who still looks hot when she trains. Hair pulled back, nice runners, gym clothes match and keeps her mobile close to her.

Should you pick her up?

Now I am going to say this once women who do not respond to you are NOT playing hard to get, they are just not interested. Do not be a playa that thinks more muscle equals more chance to score with a woman. Women love a man who takes care of his body but who can charm her, flow through a conversation with humor and confidence. If you see a woman at the gym and she is working out hardcore do not interrupt her, smile if she looks your way. A smile is a great way of communication there are no words, just expression. If she smiles back and goes back to working out and you want to talk to her, find a free machine near her and try this

You: I’m sorry but can I ask you how do I get it to the programs? (Any equipment bike, treadmill or cross trainers all have different programs to use)

Her: Oh do you want it on Manuel or hill?

You: Surprise me

There should be eye contact when you talk and when she talks. I am sure her body is hot but if you stair down south there will be no date for you. From here keep the conversation flowing if you find she is cutting you off or puts her earphones back in she may have a man or is not interested. If the conversation begins to flow remember to be yourself and not some guy you wish to be, truth be told she probably dumped that guy and is looking for a good guy. If you are shy you can always write a note and leave it on her bag or slide it in the locker. An Independent Woman will be like flash she runs in and runs out, so you better be quick.

Gyms are great for meeting people and you never know who you will meet. Next time you go observe the women around you look at what she is wearing, is she in tights and a loose top? Do her clothes match? Too much makeup or is she natural? Either way if you are a great guy looking to meet a nice woman then I know what type of women you will try and meet next time you go to the gym.

G.B.S XX

 

Is She Into You?

I love the movie ‘He's just not that into you’ it's a must see movie for any Woman who doesn’t know if a guy is into her. I believe Men are easier to read when it comes to dating, if they like you they will call you if they don’t want the friendship to grow then they just stop talking to you. Sometimes it can be hard to read a Man and it is even harder to read a Woman. A Woman’s emotions are like a roller coaster ride one minute it is high and one minute it is down, especially when she is PMS’ing one minute she likes you the next she is ignoring you. I don’t blame guys when they say women don't know what they want and ask ‘Is she into me’?

If you are starting to get to know a girl or are interested (excitng) have a look at these signs I am sure your question will be answered.

 

If a girl is into you she will do most of the following

1.She will talk a lot on the date ask questions

2.If she blushes and smiles throughout the date or when she talks to you, that is a clear sign.

3.Her body language is open such as arms comfortably on her lap or side, she moves closer to you.

4.Eye contact (big must).

5.Texts you back when you text her.

6.Finds excuses to text you (such as funny jokes).

7.Makes time to talk to you during the day or at night via verbal communication not texting.

8.Talks to her friends about you or even a mate of yours.

9.Writes cute and perky status on Facebook (ah fb where would be without it).

10.Gets dressed up when you meet up (I’m talking high heels, nice dress and takes pride in her hair and makeup).

11.Her pupils are enlarged when you make eye contact with her.

12.She licks her lips in your presence.

13.She breaks apart from her group of friends to talk to you.

14.You are with a group of people and she talks to you more often than anyone in the group.

15.She asks you questions about yourself (especially past relationships).

16.She laughs at all of your jokes.

17.She says that you are cute and compliments you.

18.She tells you something personal about herself.

19.She says something overtly sexual to you (even if it is in a joking manner).

20.Her attitude is more playful with you than with other members of the group.

21.She touches you in any way. ( well that could work).

22. Compliments your style (as she should, if not you follow my style tips).

Out of 22 how many of these signs is your girl showing?

If your girl is showing less than 5 of these it means you need more time together. If you are not feeling the butterflies or her emotions have changed maybe she is just NOT that into you. Don’t worry I got you covered on sure signs that Women show when we are not interested.

She is just NOT that into you

1.She takes hours to reply to your text or even days.

2.She adds all your mates on Facebook and sends them private messages (she sounds great, not).

3.Changes her status to in a relationship

4.Makes excuses why she can’t meet you (washing her hair, come on girl that is so 1920’s).

5.She shows no eye contact when you see her.

6.She has her arms crossed in your presence.

7.She turns her back to you.

8.She turns her shoulder to you giving you the cold shoulder.

9.She appears stiff in your presence.

10.She pretends that she does not notice you.

11.She talks to friends instead of you.

12.When she sees you out she walks past you and does not pay you attention.

13.She does not display any emotion when you make your approach.

14.She clings to her friend when you approach her.

15.She does not smile back at you.

16.Her lips are pursed in your presence.

17. Criticizes what you wear.

 

Some Women are great at playing games with your emotions they we seem so into you then BAM all of a sudden she doesn’t reply, call or meet up. Never give a Woman 100% of your time from day 1, take things slow and go with your instincts. Sometimes asking your mates if they know her or anyone that does can help you so you do not get heart broken if she leaves you out of the blue. When it comes to emotions no one should take it and break it, unfortunately it happens so guys if she is into you GOOD LUCK and if she is not that into you ‘NEXT’ don’t waste your time on someone who does not deserve you.

G.B.S XX

Long-Term Relationships Are Here To Stay

 We all dream about having the perfect relationship, I know that I can sit here and dish out to my friends how too let go of the fears and enjoy their relationship better but when it comes to myself some times I forget what holds a good relationship together. No one is perfect and I think we need to remember that we are not striving for perfection in relationships just progress. So stop stressing relax and have a read of this article I found online and look at the positive not the negative.

The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships

Which relationships stand the test of time, and why?

1.Thinking positively about your partner. Having positive thoughts about your partner means that you focus on the good, not the bad, in your partner’s personal qualities and character. Ruminating about the things that bother you can only lead you to magnify the small foibles which will make your partner even more irritating to you than you would otherwise feel.  People in good relationships engage in “sentiment override,” meaning that they remember more of the favorable than the unfavorable experiences they’ve shared together.

2.Thinking about your partner when apart. When you leave your partner for the day, the evening, or for an extended period of time, do you forget about his or her existence? Is it out of sight and out of mind for you? If so, this may be a sign that you’re not that much in love. You don’t have to spend every second apart sighing longingly, but the fact that your partner isn’t there should at least cross your mind some of the time during the course of the average day.

3.Difficulty concentrating on other things when thinking about your partner. If you’re able to set aside your thoughts about your partner without much effort, this suggests that your partner takes up only a small amount of cognitive load.  Multitasking isn’t particularly desirable when it comes to musing over your loved one. In the O'Leary study, this factor was particularly important for men.

4.Enjoying novel and challenging activities. Like definitely attracts like when it comes to personal interests and hobbies. Spending time together is important, as you’ll see below, but it’s how you spend your time that influences your relationship satisfaction even more. Aron’s self-expansion model, tested in empirical research, suggests that couples can improve their love for each other when they spend their time together exploring new and challenging activities. The O'Leary study identified this factor as especially relevant for men. If you’re going to go bungee jumping for the first time, your relationship will benefit when you and your partner face this challenge together. If you’re not up to bungee jumping, seek out mentally challenging ways to spice up your daily routines. 

5.Spending time together. If you love someone, you want to spend time with that person, and the more time you spend together, the more your love will grow. The time you spend should include some new and challenging activities, as shown in point #4. However, even spending time together in mundane household activities can enhance your love's intensity. That basement remodeling you’ve been intending to get started can actually become a way for you and your partner to strengthen your emotional bonds. Cooking, gardening, grocery shopping, and even cleaning the house are other ways to bolster your love for each other. This was another factor that, in the O'Leary study, was more important for men.

6.Expressing affection. Feeling love toward your partner is important, but so is expressing that love in physical ways. It’s not wise to play hard to get when your goal is to build the passion in your relationship. The affection you show doesn’t have to be elaborate or overly gushy. A touch on the shoulder or kiss on the cheek is enough to build your relationship’s intensity. 

7.Being turned on by your partner. Those tiny touches of affection can not only boost your emotional connection to your partner, but also stoke the sexual fires within. The respondents reporting the most intense love for their partner in the O’Leary study said that they felt their bodies responding when their partner touched them. This doesn’t mean a full-out sexual encounter has to follow from that touch on the cheek. Feeling a warm, tingling sensation from your partner’s physical presence is enough to keep the fire inside stoked until the time is right for sexual activity.

8.Engaging in sexual intercourse. It should come as no surprise that having intercourse is a positive expression of a love’s intensity. People in love are more likely to have sex with each other on a regular basis. The O’Leary study showed, however, that part of the reason for the positive association between sex and love is that people who are happiest in their relationships both love their partners more and have sex more frequently. Whatever the cause, the point is that sexual activity builds and maintains feelings of love and evenhappiness that endure over time. 

9.Feeling generally happy. People who feel happier about life also have stronger feelings of love toward their partners. We can’t determine whether people who are in love therefore feel happier or vice versa from the survey data in the O’Leary study (and the finding was more true of women than men). However, the finding suggests that if you’re experiencing personal distress, this can leak out and cause your relationship to suffer. Similarly, if your relationship is in trouble, your personal happiness will suffer as well. Either way, it's important for you to seek help before these negative effects take a heavy toll on your mental health.

The formula for keeping love alive in your closest relationship is a complicated one. The study by the O’Learyteam, in identifying these 12 factors, provides new evidence to show that not only can long-term couples get along with each other, but they can maintain their passion for many decades.  Close relationships are the centerpiece of our sense of identity and are fundamental to our feelings of fulfillment. By changing your thoughts and your behavior about these relationships, you can keep them fresh and vital for years.

Now go out and tell your woman how much you love her and start living for your relationship and have fun

G.B.S XX 

Reference Published on June 5, 2012 by Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. in Fulfillment at Any Age

Can You Judge?

One night I was out with my friends having dinner everyone had their high-tech iphones and playing games taking selfies, half my friends are guys and the other half women. I was taking photos with my friend’s phones when I realized some wallpapers on their phones were cute, interesting and too much self-love. Guys if you meet a girl try and get a glimpse of her phone, who does she have as her wallpaper on her phone? This can tell you a lot about her before you go on your second date.

Type 1 

Family- Every guy loves a girl who is close to her family, this girl is close with her family and keeps them close to her, maybe she moved away ? This woman will be carrying she may also be ready to have kids of her own so take this one with a little caution. 

Type 2

Friends- This girl loves to go out she is your social butterfly and loves life. She probably has a photo where she looks hot with her girlfriends from the weekend. This girl will be fun to date, outgoing and ready to party but can you tame this one?

Type 3

Animal- This girl loves animals or maybe just her own? If she loves animals than she will have a lot of love to give, she loves to take her pet for walks on the weekend that means she is a fit woman and loves to be outdoors. Dating this girl will bring you love and joy but can you handle the dog humping your leg?

Type 4

Inspirational Quotes- This girl is positive or is really trying to be. This girl is someone who looks for the bright things in life and smiles when she reads something uplifting, this girl is great and has a lot of love to give but be careful she is not going through a hard time and bring baggage into the relationship. 

Type 5

Celebrities- This girl loves her celebrities preferably a guy celebrity otherwise you will need to ask questions. This girl lives in la la land searching for the perfect guy hence the big buff daddy as her wallpaper. This girl is fun, ditzy at times means well maybe a little immature, caution you maybe spending more dates at the movies.

Type 6

No Image- This girl does not have time to add an image to her wallpaper; this girl is a woman a workingwoman. She lives life and that is her reality she does not give into social media and is a realist this woman is high maintenance can you handle it?

Type 7

Herself-  This girl loves herself and is ‘Super Ego’ according to Freud. A woman who has an image of herself loves herself a lot, is fine been alone, confident and comfortable. It's great to be confident but is this too much? This woman may not have time for dating.

Type 8

Fitness- This girl loves to look good or maybe she is inspiring to lose weight and keep an image close to her. This girl is dedicated and loyal and loves to train you guys can have heaps of fun training together. Can you be with a girl that lifts more than you?

These have been the most common images I have seen when it comes to girls, you can’t judge a woman for what she has on her phone but you can enter with caution. Keeping the tips real for you guys have questions? Ask away

G.B.S XX

Too Many Guy Mates?

How many is too many? Is the girl you are interested in have a lot of guy mates? By too many I am talking half her Facebook friends and feed are full of guys. Do you see a lot of her photos with her mates kicking back at bars or even bbq's? Now before we judge the girl lets figure her out.

I admit that I myself have a lot of guy friends, well I did and at 28 the amount has decreased but for myself I get along easier and much better with male companions. Women need 3 types of Men in their lives before Mr. Right comes along, this could explain a little about her and her social life.

Guy UNO (1): Sweet Heart- The sweetheart is harmless to her but can be a little annoying to shake off at first, he is the guy that wants to date her but does not succeed, so why does she keep him around? Because he listens to her, gives her want she wants emotionally and is just a genuinely nice guy. This guy has been around for over 5 months and the relationship never blossomed, he is the guy that she crawls up to on the couch with and nothing sexual happens.He makes her feel like a queen. He may try and act like he is harmless to you but watch out he might try and up his game. I think if you are a Man’s man you have nothing to worry about, there is a reason why she chose you not him.

Guy DUE (2): Bad Guy- Who is the Bad Guy? I am not talking about big muscles and a criminal record, although, you never know with some women. The bad guy is the one she wants and keeps hoping she can change him. The relationship between your future and her past can be hard to break but if she really likes you than he is HISTORY. This guy and your girl could of being involved had a history and never escalated to what she wanted, that is why he is still around; he is toxic and no good for her. If she is a smart woman (and I hope she is) she keeps him around as a flirting device but once Mr. Right comes he should be BYE BYE BYE. If this guy is still around after 2 months of dating recheck your girl and ask questions. You can never be friends with an EX so why is she?

Guy TRE (3): The Gay Guy- This guy is her favourite he is honest with her and when I mean honest I am saying she looks fat and he is the man to tell her. Gay Men and straight Women are what Friday night footy are to you straight guys, we both need it in our lives, makes us happy and we look forward to the date every week. This guy is harmless he is your mate when you date the girl and he will wish you well. You may need to adjust to the fact that he sees her naked or knows her secrets but would you rather him, a guy who would never sleep with her or a guy that would? Gay men will fill in that void when you can’t such as; shopping, getting our hair done, nails done doing all of that high maintenance stuff you say you hate but we know you love. Have no fear with this man.

Every woman needs a mix of these 3 guys in 1 Man, we all want a man who will be humble and sensitive to our needs, we all want a man that can throw us on that bed and bring out the animal in us, then we want to top it off with a man who can look at us when we are wearing no makeup see our flaws and love us. So if you have met a woman who has a lot of guy mates try and understand she is filling a void in her life she needs all of these guys to make her happy but when she meets you, you are all she needs.

G.B.S XX

Texting, Who knew it was a big deal?

I obviously love blogging about Men's Dating Tips but I don't just write what I think, I use my knowledge in psychology and use some great references to support what I say. Now enough about me, time to get serious and ask "IS TEXTING KILLING THE RELATIONSHIP"? 

Most women love texting their man especially when it comes to new relationships, we have someone we like and we get butterflies when we hear from him, we love these emotions. If you meet a woman and you are getting to know her she is probably not texting you first or calling you because that is your job. We want to see how much you like us and want too talk to us, plus a man texting us first is more exciting than us texting them first. So we can agree that when we meet a love interest texting is important but not as important as Real Life. Some people love texting so much that they become addicted and they even engage in sexting instead of actual sex (nothing wrong with sexting as long as you get it the real deal).

The problem with texting is anything can be said and you could believe it, emotions and feeling are interpreted via text, spending too much time waiting for someone to reply can make you angry and biter. Texting is fun and all but if your relationship is via text most of the time ask yourself why? Are you long distant? Can't you see eachother more? Talk over the phone or Skype? Making excuses why she can't see you? Well, if that is the case find yourself a woman who will make time because when we like you we will make time. I know women who get angry when their partners don't reply straight away, Men have jobs and a life, these women need to take a chill pill. Where women go a little crazy is when their Man doesn't text all day or take hours and hours to reply but have been on facebook uploading photo's and liking a FaceBook status.

We women know how to stalk our bf's but why do we care so much? We care because we think about you all day and want to know if you miss us too, we look forward to hearing from you and planning our next date. Texting can be as simple as saying cute and romantic things to one another, it  can get your emotions fired up for the real deal. We love it when our phone has a message from you because it shows that you are taking time out to miss us, we don't need it every hour we just need to hear it randomly, as long as your actions speaker louder than words we will be happy.Texting is important but IT'S NOT VIATAL TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK.  I came across a great article which states the importance of texting and how it can ruin your relationship.

6 Ways Texting Is Ruining Your Dating Life

1.  You replace talking with texting.

Face it, being asked out for a date is so much better when someone calls or asks you in person - not when he or she texts you. Texting for a date conveys laziness. If you really like someone, take the time out to actually talk to them. Likewise, if things just aren't going to work out with someone, don't text them, call them.

2.  You text during a date. 

When someone is talking with you, put the phone away. Answering texts while you are on a date is just rude. It gives the message that you don't care about what your date is saying (and it shows a lack of respect). Even if you think that texting during a date is generally accepted behaviour, be different than everyone else. 

3.  You use texting to avoid intimacy.

Texting conveys short bits of information, but it doesn't replace bonding and intimacy. Bonding and intimacy are formed by sharing yourself (emotionally, intellectually, physically) with someone else. Texting just doesn't get the job done. Look at whether you are texting someone primarily because real intimacy freaks you out.

4.  You bicker over text.

You'll text things you would never actually say to your date's face. If you are having a disagreement, hold off until you can actually see the person. If seeing someone in person is geographically impossible at the moment, wait until you call him or her. Tone of speech can't be conveyed on text, and that can just lead to more confusion and hurt. If you're already bickering at the beginning of dating, take a look at whether the two of you are really compatible. 

5.  You only do sexting with your date. 

If you're looking for a long-term relationship, this is usually not the way to go. See #3. Sexting doesn't create intimacy. It may temporarily fire you up, but it's difficult to build a long-term relationship just based on sexting. There's something to be said for lending an air of mystery at first, and building up intimacy in person. 

6.  You use texts for instant gratification. 

You get upset when the Girl (or Boy) of Your dreams doesn't text back immediately. That's life, though - people have jobs. And they are busy. Answering your text, as much as someone may adore you, is not on at the top of the priority list. Especially when they have a job that needs their full attention.  

(Psychology Today) 

I found these 6 points a  great read and I hope you do too, bottom line is we women love getting a text from you saying how you miss us, how gorgeous we are and all that cute stuff, if you have to say it all the time, every hour of the day then your misses needs to chill and you need to interact more in the real world. Who we kidding? The real world rocks.

G.B.S XX