Thursday, 27 March 2014

Texting, Who knew it was a big deal?

I obviously love blogging about Men's Dating Tips but I don't just write what I think, I use my knowledge in psychology and use some great references to support what I say. Now enough about me, time to get serious and ask "IS TEXTING KILLING THE RELATIONSHIP"? 
Most women love texting their man especially when it comes to new relationships, we have someone we like and we get butterflies when we hear from him, we love these emotions. If you meet a woman and you are getting to know her she is probably not texting you first or calling you because that is your job. We want to see how much you like us and want too talk to us, plus a man texting us first is more exciting than us texting them first. So we can agree that when we meet a love interest texting is important but not as important as Real Life. Some people love texting so much that they become addicted and they even engage in sexting instead of actual sex (nothing wrong with sexting as long as you get it the real deal).
The problem with texting is anything can be said and you could believe it, emotions and feeling are interpreted via text, spending too much time waiting for someone to reply can make you angry and biter. Texting is fun and all but if your relationship is via text most of the time ask yourself why? Are you long distant? Can't you see eachother more? Talk over the phone or Skype? Making excuses why she can't see you? Well, if that is the case find yourself a woman who will make time because when we like you we will make time. I know women who get angry when their partners don't reply straight away, Men have jobs and a life, these women need to take a chill pill. Where women go a little crazy is when their Man doesn't text all day or take hours and hours to reply but have been on facebook uploading photo's and liking a FaceBook status.
We women know how to stalk our bf's but why do we care so much? We care because we think about you all day and want to know if you miss us too, we look forward to hearing from you and planning our next date. Texting can be as simple as saying cute and romantic things to one another, it  can get your emotions fired up for the real deal. We love it when our phone has a message from you because it shows that you are taking time out to miss us, we don't need it every hour we just need to hear it randomly, as long as your actions speaker louder than words we will be happy.Texting is important but IT'S NOT VIATAL TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK.  I came across a great article which states the importance of texting and how it can ruin your relationship.

6 Ways Texting Is Ruining Your Dating Life

1.  You replace talking with texting.
Face it, being asked out for a date is so much better when someone calls or asks you in person - not when he or she texts you. Texting for a date conveys laziness. If you really like someone, take the time out to actually talk to them. Likewise, if things just aren't going to work out with someone, don't text them, call them.

2.  You text during a date. 
When someone is talking with you, put the phone away. Answering texts while you are on a date is just rude. It gives the message that you don't care about what your date is saying (and it shows a lack of respect). Even if you think that texting during a date is generally accepted behaviour, be different than everyone else. 
3.  You use texting to avoid intimacy.
Texting conveys short bits of information, but it doesn't replace bonding and intimacy. Bonding and intimacy are formed by sharing yourself (emotionally, intellectually, physically) with someone else. Texting just doesn't get the job done. Look at whether you are texting someone primarily because real intimacy freaks you out.
4.  You bicker over text.
You'll text things you would never actually say to your date's face. If you are having a disagreement, hold off until you can actually see the person. If seeing someone in person is geographically impossible at the moment, wait until you call him or her. Tone of speech can't be conveyed on text, and that can just lead to more confusion and hurt. If you're already bickering at the beginning of dating, take a look at whether the two of you are really compatible. 
5.  You only do sexting with your date. 
If you're looking for a long-term relationship, this is usually not the way to go. See #3. Sexting doesn't create intimacy. It may temporarily fire you up, but it's difficult to build a long-term relationship just based on sexting. There's something to be said for lending an air of mystery at first, and building up intimacy in person. 
6.  You use texts for instant gratification. 
You get upset when the Girl (or Boy) of Your dreams doesn't text back immediately. That's life, though - people have jobs. And they are busy. Answering your text, as much as someone may adore you, is not on at the top of the priority list. Especially when they have a job that needs their full attention.  
(Psychology Today) 

I found these 6 points a  great read and I hope you do too, bottom line is we women love getting a text from you saying how you miss us, how gorgeous we are and all that cute stuff, if you have to say it all the time, every hour of the day then your misses needs to chill and you need to interact more in the real world. Who we kidding? The real world rocks.

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